Telling iCloud accounts apart

[HowardBrazee]

I wanted to send myself a reminder, so I opened "reminder" on my iPhone, and saw four lists:

Family - "Shared with howardbrazee..."
Family - "iCloud"
Family - "Shared with HowardBraz..."
Reminders

I don't know which to add my reminder to (I want to remember to ask my mother something when I visit her).

So I went to my Mac. It has:
Pat's iCloud
Family (this is empty)
Family (I put the notify request here)
iCloud
Reminders (this has a monthly reminder)
Family (This has the same notify request as above)

The reason my phone has two iCloud accounts, is I use the calendar, contacts, & notes on my wife's iCloud, but have my own iCloud account for Messages & Find My Friends.

But I get confused. I don't know where to put notifications. I have a unwanted "Family" calendars, and confusing names. Any advice on how to tell these apart?